Chat Questions: Oct 5, 2017

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Our chats are usually around one hour and are held on Twitter. Start time is 8 pm Eastern – 7 Central – 6 Mountain – 5 Pacific. If you’re in another time zone, check the time zone converter. Make sure to use the hashtag #chronicsex to participate in the chat.

This week, we’re talking mental illness since it’s Mental Illness Awareness Week.

Q1: Please introduce yourself in whatever way you’re comfortable sharing

Q2: Do you have a mental illness?

  • Yes, diagnosed
  • Yes, undiagnosed
  • No
  • I don’t know

Q3: Do you know what effects your medications can have on your physical and/or mental health?

  • Yes
  • No
  • Unsure
  • I have a rare dx so it’s unresearched

Q4: Do you feel like your mental health care is being well taken care of?

  • Definitely
  • So-so
  • Not really

What we endure in childhood can contribute to (and maybe cause) both physical and mental illness: ACEs Study

While ACEs are important, they also currently leave out socioeconomic status and societal discrimination, so we’ll add those in

Q5: What ACEs do you think may have influenced your current illnesses the most?

  • Experiencing abuse/neglect
  • Poverty/food/health access
  • Systemic discrimination (racism, homomisia, etc)
  • Lack of support/isolation

Q6: What treatments have worked to help with your mental health?

  • Medications
  • Therapy
  • Pets
  • Other

Q7: What is the one thing that brings you the most comfort?

Chat Questions: March 30, 2017

Please remember that our chat time is currently:

  • 8 PM Eastern (NYC)
  • 7 PM Central (Chicago)
  • 6 PM Mountain (Denver)
  • 5 PM Pacific (Los Angeles)

You are alway welcome to join in after the chat has ended – plenty of people do!

Tonight, we’re going to talk about different forms of self-care.

Q1: Please introduce yourself in a way you’re comfortable sharing
Q2: What are some things that you do to relieve stress?
Q3: Do you feel like you get enough ‘you’ time?
Q4: Do you ever spend alone time working on self-compassion or positive affirmations?
Q5: Do you consider masturbation a part of self-care? Why or why not
Q6: What is the thing you’ve laughed at the hardest recently?

Remember to join us on Twitter using the tag #chronicsex to take part in the conversation. If you don’t use the tag, others can’t see your answers! You’re always welcome to join after the chat has ended as well – we have plenty of people who do this because of life getting in the way.

Chat Questions: March 23, 2017

Please remember that our chat time has been pushed back an hour to:

  • 8 PM Eastern (NYC)
  • 7 PM Central (Chicago)
  • 6 PM Mountain (Denver)
  • 5 PM Pacific (Los Angeles)

Tonight, we are talking about dealing with high-pain days:

Q1: Please introduce yourself in a way you’re comfortable sharing

Tonight, we’re chatting about dealing with high-pain days.

Q2: What are some of the hardest things for you to do on a high pain day?

Q3: Does it seem like high pain days get in the way of interpersonal communication?

As we talk, be mindful of laws around pain-relieving medications and treatments. Don’t get in trouble.

Q4: Do you feel like your pain is currently being controlled well by your healthcare team?

Q5: What kinds of things have you explored outside of medication to help with pain?

Q6: What shows or movies or music help distract you from pain?

Remember to join us on Twitter using the tag #chronicsex to take part in the conversation. If you don’t use the tag, others can’t see your answers! You’re always welcome to join after the chat has ended as well – we have plenty of people who do this because of life getting in the way.

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Chat Questions Jan 12, 2017: Advocacy in 2017

It’s been a while since we had chat, I know. My health hasn’t been great lately and, let’s face it, I think a lot of us are feeling pretty defeated, too.

I’ll be honest – as a queer and disabled sexuality educator/disability activist who grew up in poverty and abuse and tries to be as intersectional in advocacy as possible? I don’t feel like this country wants me here right now. That is really hard to balance with doing social justice work.

I know I’m not the only one dealing with these feels. Tonight, let’s talk through some of this and come up with some advocacy ideas together. If we can help each other, the work that we do goes further.

This will be a really chill chat tonight. We are going to check in with each other. No one can pour tea from an empty cup.

We are going to check in with each other. No one can pour tea from an empty cup so we need to talk about self-care.

We’ll talk about some struggles we’re having. Next, we will see if we can brainstorm on advocacy together.

Join us tonight at 7 pm Eastern over on Twitter using the tag #chronicsex.

Chat Questions 17 Nov 2016

Did you know that November is National Caregiver Month?

The term ‘caregiver’ can be negative sometimes if we’re not happy about needing help. Caregivers can be anyone in your support network who supports you physically, emotionally, or mentally.

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Q1: Please introduce yourself in a way you’re comfortable sharing

Q2: Who in your life do you see as a caregiver? 

Q3: Have you ever thought about your illness from a caregivers’ perspective (partner, friend, etc)?

Q4: Have you ever had to play caregiver? How did that go? 

Q5: Do you feel you say thank you to your caregivers often enough? Why or why not? 

Q6: If you could have any famous person as a caregiver or friend, who would it be and why? 

Chat Questions November 3, 2016

This week’s chat questions are all about friends:

Q1: Please introduce yourself in a way you’re comfortable sharing Q2: Do you have a support system, like good friends? Q3: What is the hardest part of having an illness or disability when it comes to friendship? Q4: What are some of the best things friends have done or said for you? Q5: What are some things you’d like for friends to know about your illness or disability? Q6: What is your favorite thing about the week so far?

Q1: Please introduce yourself in a way you’re comfortable sharing

Q2: Do you have a support system, like good friends?

Q3: What is the hardest part of having an illness or disability when it comes to friendship?

Q4: What are some of the best things friends have done or said for you?

Q5: What are some things you’d like for friends to know about your illness or disability?

Q6: What is your favorite thing about the week so far?

I hope that you can join us tonight at 7 PM Eastern!

#ChronicSex Chat Questions Oct 27, 2016

It’s chat day!

Q1: Please introduce yourself in a way you’re comfortable sharing

Tonight, we’re going to talk about lube since we have a giveaway!

Q2: Do you feel like you know about different kinds of personal lubricants and which might work best for you?

Q3: Do you know the potential dangers of some ingredients in lube?

Q4: Do you know all the potential uses of lube?

Q5: Do you have a favorite type of lube?

Q6: What are your Halloween plans?

Make sure to join us at 7 PM Eastern on Twitter using the tag #ChronicSex – and don’t forget to enter our SYLK giveaway!

Chat Questions for October 6, 2016

It’s been a month since we had our chat thanks for conference season, so we are checking in tonight. Join us at 7 pm Eastern for our live chat on Twitter using the hashtag #chronicsex.

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Q1: Please introduce yourself in a way you’re comfortable sharing

Q2: It has been a long time, lovebugs. How are you doing?

Q3: How are your self-care and self-love efforts going?

Q4: How are your interpersonal/intimate relationships doing?

Q5: What types of things would you like to talk about in the future?

Q6: Who is your favorite celebrity crush and why?

 

 

Chat Questions for August 25, 2016

Tonight, we’re talking about finding and using our voice with loved ones.

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Q1: Please introduce yourself in a way you’re comfortable sharing

Tonight, we’re going to talk about finding our voice in any relationship. Keep in mind that when I say ‘loved ones’ that can mean whatever it needs to for you – partners, family, friends, etc.

Q2: Do you feel like you can vocalize needs, wants, and concerns with loved ones?

Q3: Do you feel supported in regards to your health, your self-esteem, and the like by your loved ones?

Q4: When a loved one makes a judgmental or hurtful comment, are you able to stand up for yourself?

Q5: Do you have any tips for how to deal with judgmental comments or not let them get to you?

Q6: What is your favorite thing about the changing of seasons coming up?

Chat Questions August 18, 2016

This week, we’re talking self-esteem:

Q1: Please introduce yourself in a way you’re comfortable sharing

Tonight, we’re going to talk about how our chronic illness or disability affect self-esteem

Q2: How do you feel about yourself currently? Do you have high, low, or middle-ish self-esteem?

Q3: How much do you feel like chronic illness and disability affect your self-esteem – little, meh, or DAMN?

Q4: Have you found any tips and tricks to improve self-esteem despite chronic illness & disability?

Q5: If you could talk to newly-diagnosed you, what would you say to help them with self-esteem?

Q6: What badass thing did you accomplish this week?