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Announcing the Trans Health Legal Fund

The following press release was issued on Monday, March 7, 2023:

In the face of widespread attacks on transgender people’s bodily autonomy, Transgender Law Center and If/When/How’s Repro Legal Defense Fund are coming together to launch the Trans Health Legal Fund.

This fund provides economic resources and support for people facing investigation, arrest, or prosecution for seeking gender-affirming healthcare. This fund is a vital tool to protect our communities from pervasive attacks on their access to healthcare from extremist policymakers, police, and prosecutors.

“Trans and nonbinary people deserve the right to access the medical care and resources that align with their needs,” said Shelby Chestnut, Executive Director of Transgender Law Center. “The increasing threats of legislators attempting to ban and criminalize gender affirming care and abortion have highlighted even more the need for a collective response. We’re proud to partner with If/When/How’s Repro Legal Defense Fund to create a pathway to liberation and bodily autonomy for all people.”

“Our fights for reproductive justice and trans liberation are deeply intertwined. As our movements face continuous waves of attacks on our bodily autonomy, it’s essential that we show up together to support the needs of our communities,” said Rafa Kidvai, Director of If/When/How’s Repro Legal Defense Fund. “Criminalization creates a harmful, life-long domino effect on someone’s life, whether they face jail, arrest, or surveillance. Together with the Transgender Law Center, we will work to minimize the harms of the criminal legal system and fight to ensure our communities can live safely and authentically.”

The Trans Health Legal Fund will curtail the deep and lasting harm of facing criminalization by providing financial support that’s for the whole human – from bail to commissary to therapy. Transgender people who are facing criminalization for seeking healthcare can apply to the fund at www.transgenderlawcenter.org.

Transgender Law Center (TLC) is the largest national trans-led organization advocating for a world in which all people are free to define themselves and their futures. Grounded in legal expertise and committed to racial justice, TLC employs a variety of community-driven strategies to keep transgender and gender nonconforming people alive, thriving, and fighting for liberation.

The Repro Legal Defense Fund (RLDF) is a program of If/When/How: Lawyering for Reproductive Justice that works to prevent, defend against, and put a permanent stop to the criminalization of people’s bodies. The RLDF provides bail and strong defenses for anyone criminalized for something that happens during pregnancy, and the folks who directly support them.

Representation in Medical Education Needs to Enter the 21st Century

The following is a piece I wrote for a website that wound up falling through.  This is an important topic and needs to be both brought up and discussed, so I’m sharing it here. Note: a lot of cisgender-focused research is linked due to the availability.

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The last several years have brought about more awareness of discrimination. From race to immigration status to gender, ignorant folks are waking up to reality. One area that continues to be an issue, though, is healthcare.

Authors have released books within the last few years highlighting discrimination in healthcare. Michelle Lent Hirsch documents these issues extensively in her book Invisible. Medical professionals are more likely to dismiss or downplay cisgender women’s health issues. That’s also true of those within the trans community and people of color. Providers assume physical issues are emotional or mental as opposed to investigating them. On top of these, providers will dismiss pain caused by other health issues, weight, or gender. It happens so often that there are names for these occasions, such as Trans Broken Arm Syndrome. These patients are less likely to have pain taken seriously, especially if Black and – god forbid – a Black woman.

Why is that?

The American Education Research Association journal explored gender biases. The 2018 study they published investigated students studying medicine. The authors found that men are depicted most often. Their prevalence in these textbooks actually had “a significant impact on the implicit gender attitudes” of the students. As a result, those studied associated cis women with stereotypical areas such as reproductive health instead of spaces like surgery, eye care, etc.

Implicit biases are subconscious beliefs we hold that are discriminatory. You can learn more about that below:

Dr. Kristen Young, DO, MeD, reflected on her education. “The way we learn medicine in medical school,” Young shares, “is very much rote memorization.” Educators give very little background or context for the information they present. Dr. Young says that context comes as students progress in medicine. Still, Dr. Young acknowledges that this focus on memorization “can be hard to shake.” So many students are busy trying to learn and memorize medical content. With the lack of education around oppression in most places, context can be harder to see. These students may not have the information to question the origins of information. That causes harm when these origins include a lack of diversityexperimentation, and literal torture.

It is vital to have that historical knowledge. As someone working in public health, that background helps me understand why patients may not trust medicine or doctors. I can then craft education to meet them where they are. For providers, that background helps them be mindful of the ways white supremacy moves through them.

Without that information, it can also mean we don’t recognize our roles – individual or systemic – or how we can address issues to push for health equity. We are not outside of the systems of inequity, but complicit.

Gender

Heather Edwards, PT, CSC, is a pelvic physical therapist and AASECT sex counselor. Treatments in the field of pelvic floor therapy focus on cis women, alienating cis men and those under the transgender umbrella. Pelvic floor issues affect anyone and everyone, though. This lack of inclusion causes men and trans folks harm. Edwards shares that some “who offer ‘women’s health’ services will also acknowledge that they also treat men and…are ‘trans-inclusive.’” Often, though, that’s shared with other providers and not patients or the general public. Other times, that’s lip service and not something these individuals strive to work toward.

Providers hold workshops based on genitalia, claiming they are inclusive of trans people. They don’t share who all is welcome in that space in descriptions of their offerings. They also don’t list what attendees should expect. It often winds up being exclusive by omission. The fear of encountering misgendering or even physical violence is real. That goes double for spaces people see as ‘women only.’ Edwards suggests providers hosting workshops or giving talks be transparent about their offerings. Educators and providers should be precise about what people can expect. That includes what language educators may use, group work, and more. Doing so gives people the ability to make a decision based on informed consent.

Edwards shares that schooling providers go through doesn’t match society. Schools teach students to “treat bodies through a biomedical model.” We know gender is a societal construct rooted in oppression and white supremacy. We know the disability community hates this model as well. Perhaps it’s time to stop using it altogether?

“It’s not our job to link genitals and gender,” Edwards says. Medical schools do not offer much LGBTQ+ education, though. As recently as 2003, medical schools in North America offered 6-10 hours on topics related to sex for general providers. Most of that focused on dysfunction or fertility, not cultural competency. If we don’t address biases or educate providers about groups they may not have encountered before, we make space for providers to bring their longstanding biases with them into the clinic.

Weight

Patients who are heavier often face discrimination within healthcare as well. There can be a lot of trauma, shame, and stigma around weight. Factors can include societal pressure, self-esteem, and the idea of ‘health’ looking a certain way. These external negative attitudes also lead to providers blaming patients’ weight or refusing to prescribe treatments for very real health conditions. People constantly die or lose organs because of the lack of care. That stigma isn’t helped by a lack of compassion in conversations providers have with patients. In fact, that harshness can lead to increased weight. Notably missing are ways to discuss weight that are culturally competent and compassionate.

I wish that were the end of the issue. Reproductive healthcare items like birth control patches, Plan B, and even pregnancy tests themselves were not tested on or calibrated for fat bodies.

The links Nicola shares above:

If patients allow providers to measure weight, those within healthcare need to be aware that this isn’t an indicator of health. It’s also not the best tool for all people. Usually, when pulling a weight, clinics will calculate a body mass index (or BMI). This tool was developed and tested on white cisgender men. It has not been updated in most cases to fit the needs of those among communities made up of additional races, ethnicities, genders, sexes, and more.

Sex educator Emily Nagoski has also highlighted the sexism inherent in anti-fat attitudes. This is true in greater society as well as in healthcare. That combines with issues such as racism, anti-LGBTQ+ attitudes, or otherwise relying on the ideals of white supremacy. As already highlighted, it is vital to keep these issues in mind. It’s much harder to ignore the ways inequity operates within public health and medicine if you’re conscious of situations such as this. Only after acknowledging a problem exists can we deal with it. Then, providers can work to rebuild trust within communities harmed by exclusion and oppression.

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Race

When medical illustrations show cis women, they are generally “white, slim, and young.” The lack of diversity in medical images causes harm to patients in a way we will never fully grasp. Dawn Gibson, a long-time activist, knows this all too well. The Director of The Community Leadership Council at The National Pain Advocacy Center, Gibson has worked internationally to help others gain access to decent healthcare. In that time, she has met many patients whose health conditions have been dismissed or denied by providers. There are many factors, including unfamiliarity with these conditions, insurance, and outright bias.

Providers will also dismiss possible diagnoses by assuming a Black person like Gibson has no European ancestry. “On paper, my genealogy points to about 60% European ancestry. That’s clinically relevant. Still, day-to-day, they say ‘there goes a Black woman.'” This is indicative of a much larger problem – how we view race. Rhonda Rousey, Gibson explains, has an ancestor who was the first Black doctor in Oklahoma. That family passed into whiteness and, now, most will assume Rousey is a white woman. It just “shows you there’s nothing real about racial categories,” Gibson shares. 

Gibson has experienced this dismissal first-hand, from providers to researchers and beyond.

Gibson has Ankylosing Spondylitis (AS), a type of inflammatory arthritis focused primarily on the spine. Before the last few years, providers thought AS was especially rare to see outside of white cis men. There is a 9-year delay in diagnosis for women overall, per Dr. Young. When we add in a patient’s race as a factor, that delay gets even worse. Gibson has a whole network of patients whose providers did not believe Black women could get this condition. 

Many patients Gibson knows have gone decades without a proper diagnosis. In dermatology, providers get few if any examples of conditions on darker skin. Gibson knows too many patients who were told Black people don’t get psoriasis. Because of the delay in diagnosis, some of these patients waited decades to access treatments. To make matters worse, the idea that there are no Black patients with AS means there is no recruitment of Black people for studies and clinical trials. That then becomes a vicious cycle, perpetuating the idea that Black people do not get AS.

That denial extends into patient support spaces as well, a combination of perpetuating that cycle and white supremacy at work. Many people of color, but especially Black women, wind up being run out of these groups by a mixture of racism and white supremacy.

After years of sounding the alarm, providers are finally starting to research AS in Black women – with patients leading the charge. As of 2020, research has found that Black people have worse disease activity than their white counterparts. The Black community also deals with a larger number of additional health issues. In the end, that could explain part of why their disease activity is worse. That’s especially true when these health issues can be caused and influenced by systemic oppression and gatekeeping. Issues like a lack of access to care, distrust in the medical establishment, and even discrimination itself play big roles.

One example can be found in prostate cancer. Black men (and those of other genders who have a prostate) “are more likely to be diagnosed with prostate cancer and nearly 2.5 times more likely to die of the disease compared to non-Hispanic white men.” A 2019 study of more than 300,000 prostate cancer patients found that access to care and additional health issues played a major role in that statistic.

“The data show that black men don’t appear to intrinsically and biologically harbor more aggressive disease,” Spratt says. “They generally get fewer PSA screenings, are more likely to be diagnosed with later stage cancer, are less likely to have health insurance, have less access to high-quality care and other disparities that can be linked to a lower overall socioeconomic status.” (source)

The study suggested that these barriers were “likely rooted in complex socio-cultural inequities in the US.” We know from various other studies, too, that “Black people simply are not receiving the same quality of health care that their white counterparts receive.”

We know, too, that discrimination such as racism leads to inflammation in the body.

“If those genes remain active for an extended period of time, that can promote heart attacks, neurodegenerative diseases, and metastatic cancer,” says co-author Steve Cole of the University of California, Los Angeles… racism may account for as much as 50 percent of the heightened inflammation among African Americans, including those who were positive for HIV. (source)

Higher inflammation has been noted among other groups as well, such as those living in poverty. When we combine information and see how many Black people are also forced to live in poverty and facing other stressors, it’s easy to see why the idea of intersectionality is vital to these conversations.

How do we fix this?

White people often assume that representation among medical providers will fix the issue. “We’re not going to ‘Black doctor’ our way out of this,” Gibson says, and she’s right. That kind of thinking puts the responsibility back on underrepresented communities. Representation can’t fix this when systemic barriers exist, including lack of access to being underinsured to essentially healthcare deserts.

These barriers prevent many people from Black communities from even thinking about entering the field of medicine. We also know that police murder and imprison Black people – especially those who are disabled – at higher rates. Between that and the number of people forced to work multiple jobs due to economic racism and poverty, that leaves little time and energy for things like medical school. That doesn’t even count the costs!

The lack of representation in these spaces is purposeful. If you force people into a constant state of survival and gatekeep their access to help at every turn, you can keep power.

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Some believe that inclusive resources, such as Black-focused dermatology textbooks, will fix this. When resources like these pop-up, their creators become the subject of news stories and interviews. That doesn’t always translate to impact, though. That awareness fades and folks go back to their everyday lives. Those same people ‘excited’ about these resources aren’t embarrassed or motivated enough to take real action, Gibson points out. Dr. Young encourages medical students and providers to think critically about previous findings. That includes everything they’ve been taught. Perhaps if more providers thought that way, they would have already examined claims like ‘Black women don’t get AS’ and found them inaccurate.

I grew up in a Mormon household. For those of you who don’t know, Mormons are a little obsessed with genealogy. I know a lot about my family history on my mom’s side, back into the 1500s. Along with that, I know a good bit about family health history. Many white people do not consider that to be something they’re lucky to access, but it is. Black people whose family members were stolen from their homes and enslaved do not have that information.  We have to see how slavery and racism have led to long-term health issues. Trauma can be passed down via genetics to future generations. We should be further along in acknowledging and dealing with this. Public health is only acknowledging it now, though.

With this in mind, I wonder how the continued harm that Gibson and her peers face will affect future generations?

Moving Forward

2020 saw a reinvigorated cry for change. Many who used to ignore or deny racism couldn’t any longer. Our national policies haven’t changed to meet where we are as a society, Gibson shares. This especially applies to the field of medicine. Back in March of this year, the Journal of the American Medical Association questioned if systemic racism even exists. Many institutions are only now starting to think about health equity work. This means they’re playing catch-up to not only learn the basics of equity but also terms that are new to them around race, ethnicity, gender, and more. On top of defensiveness, this also leads to a lot of mistakes. Those are bound to happen, sure, but it’s easy to see how people lose trust in these institutions – institutions that should know better by now.

“Perfection is a tool of white supremacy.” We know, logically, that perfection doesn’t exist. Once we see how “perfection” is used as a way to oppress, police, invalidate and justify violence against the vast majority of people, it’s even more important for us to defy standards of perfection. (source)

How do we move forward? Dr. Young believes we need better representation. That’s across the board, from textbooks to questions on board exams. “We need to move away from stereotypes and really represent the diversity of diseases,” she says. Dr. Young also believes she would have benefited from interacting with students earlier. She shares that patients “paint diseases in color that often medical school teaches in black and white.” Edwards agrees. They also suggest taking steps to be more inclusive, such as avoiding assuming pronouns.

Edwards would also love to see more non-gendered illustrations in textbooks. They shared that seeing variety in body shape is sorely needed. Improving these images can change how providers interact with a variety of people. ” I absolutely think our medical books should reflect our society,” they share.

Wanting more representation is great, but that would take time people here now may not have. As Gibson puts it, “If [the field of] medicine is such an important part of our society, why should I skulk around in the shadows?” 

Thinking back to trauma, Gibson wonders about “the long-term consequences of having to create this moment.” She adds, “We may have the highest understanding of disparities we’ve ever had.” While true, Gibson is also concerned it will get worse. “Right now, people are feeling something and will assume they did something with that.” None of this has translated to national policy, meaning the progress could disappear. If it does, Gibson wonders if things will be worse than before.

My Takeaways

Without working for better representation, there is no way for us to work towards a healthier future for every single one of us. The future of medicine – and the world – needs each of us to recognize the differences among us. We can celebrate some of these differences. Others we must work to correct, such as bigotry. Only then will we find our collective and mutual liberation.

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Do you feel like you can talk to your HCPs about sex?

Pals, I’m running research! Come help!

When we say ‘HCPs,’ we mean healthcare providers. This could be a physician, nurse, medical assistant, physical therapist, or another medical professional directly involved in your care.

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This survey is to measure concerns, attitudes, and ideas you may have about the conversation between health care providers and patients on sex. This survey is for those in a patient role and is only opened to people 18 and older in the United States or the US territories.

The information you share will be used to create a comprehensive and accessible guide to help you and others navigate discussing sex with providers easier in the future. This guide will be free and available via a number of methods so that you can utilize the one most accessible to you.

The answers you provide will be anonymous and only utilized for research or education around the discussion of sexuality and gender within healthcare. The cumulative percentages for questions will be used in order to discuss and share information with others. No identifying information will be collected, but you will be asked a number of sensitive questions around sex, sexuality, and healthcare interactions.

What is involved in this research?

This study consists of a one-time online survey using Google Surveys. ORCHIDS – The Organization for Research of Chronic Illness, Disability, and Sexuality – is conducting this survey. You can learn more about our group at orchidsresearch.org.

It should take approximately 30-45 minutes to complete the survey.

Are there benefits to being in the study?

There is no direct benefit for you. By taking part in this survey, though, you may contribute to knowledge about talking with providers around sex and sexuality. This may be used in the future for medical education as well as presentations and other learning materials.

What are the possible risks of the study?

There are no physical risks associated with this study. There is the potential to relive difficult situations throughout the course of this survey. You may stop your participation in this study at any time by closing the survey.

As with anything online, there is a potential risk of loss of privacy. We will make every effort to keep your information private. Naturally, this cannot be guaranteed.

What are the costs and compensation?

There are neither costs nor compensation.

At the end of the survey, you will be given an additional link to put in your email address if you want to be among the first to access information about the guide we’re creating.

Who do I contact for questions?

If you have questions or concerns, please contact Kirsten Schultz. This can be done via email (kirsten -at- chronicsex.org).

Do you agree to participate in this study?

By clicking ‘next,’ you allow us to utilize your de-identified information in order to discuss issues related to sex and sexuality. This also allows us the ability to highlight the concerns you’ve shared in the final guide that will be created and available for free. You also certify that you are a person age 18 and over currently living in the United States or one of the US territories.

This survey will close on November 1, 2019.

If you’re interested, please note that you must live in the United States (or US territories – such as Puerto Rico or Guam) and be 18 years of age or older.

Ready? Let’s go! http://bit.ly/HCPsexuality

Take Action Now on Section 1557 of the ACA

I’m passing this along from NCIL (which I know has been problematic as of late) because this is incredibly important to every community I work with. Please consider reaching out and speaking up.

On June 14, 2019, the Trump Administration published a proposed regulation that would roll back the nondiscrimination protections under Section 1557 of the Affordable Care Act (ACA). Section 1557 is the provision of the ACA that prohibits discrimination in healthcare programs and activities on the basis of race, color, national origin, sex, age, or disability. The Administration’s proposal is extremely dangerous and discriminatory, and we need to do everything we can to stop this proposal from being finalized!

Specifically, the proposal would limit the number of health programs subject to Section 1557, and it would narrow the scope of the protections under Section 1557 in the following ways:

• Gender identity and sex stereotyping would be completely eliminated from the definition of sex discrimination, the definition of gender identity would be eliminated, and all references to sexual orientation in HHS regulations would be erased. This could allow healthcare providers to deny transgender people gender-affirming care, and would result in queer and trans people being significantly less likely to get quality healthcare and more likely to face discrimination, abuse, or refusals of care.

• Requirements for notices and taglines that let people with Limited English Proficiency (LEP) know about language access services, including services for disabled people, would no longer be required.

• Healthcare providers would be able to refuse care and justify it under Title IX’s religious exemption. This would allow healthcare providers to discriminate against or deny abortions, reproductive health services, or other health services that a provider says violates their religious beliefs.

• The ban on insurance plan discrimination on the basis of disability, age, and other factors would be removed, which would disproportionately impact people with disabilities and chronic illnesses. The removal of protections around benefit design would disproportionately impact people with HIV/AIDS and other disabilities and chronic illnesses that may be treated or managed with more expensive medications or other treatments.

• The requirement for healthcare providers to share notices that inform people of their nondiscrimination policy, their rights, how to file complaints if they are discriminated against, and other information would be completely eliminated.

All the above proposed changes will impact disabled people. In addition, the Administration is specifically seeking comments on questions related to disability access.

Specifically, they have asked for feedback regarding:

• Effective Communication: Whether to remove the requirement for covered providers with less than 15 employees to provide auxiliary aids and services.

• Accessibility Standards: Whether to continue to apply the 2010 ADA Standards to all entities under Section 1557, specifically in regard to benefits to disabled people versus burdens on private entities (see 45 CFR 92.103).

• Reasonable Modifications: Whether to keep current language regarding accommodations that is derived from Title II of the ADA, or to substitute with language conforming to Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act. Current language (based on the ADA) states that covered entities must make reasonable modifications to policies, practices, or procedures when necessary to avoid discrimination on the basis of disability, except if the modification would fundamentally alter the nature of the health program or activity. Proposed new language (based on the Rehabilitation Act) states that covered entities shall make reasonable accommodation to the known physical or mental limitations of an otherwise qualified individual with a disability. In this section, they also seek comment on whether to include an exemption for “undue hardship” (see 45 CFR 92.105).

It is clear that if this attempted rollback is finalized, disabled people and many others will be significantly less likely to receive quality healthcare or to file grievances when discriminated against. Disabled people would also not be provided with the resources they need to know about those things in the first place.

Take Action!

The comment period closes on August 13, 2019 at 11:59 Eastern, so please submit comments as soon as possible! Your comments should explain why you oppose this proposed change, and you should address as many of the specific proposed changes and questions as possible. This is a cruel attack on people who already experience discrimination in healthcare settings, and this proposal will only make things worse. We must ensure the Administration hears from as many of us as possible!

Comments can be submitted online through the Federal eRulemaking Portal (preferred) or by mail.

• Federal eRulemaking Portal: You may submit electronic comments at regulations.gov/comment?D=HHS-OCR-2019-0007-0001 or by going to regulations.gov and searching for the Docket ID number HHS-OCR-2019-0007. Click on “Comment Now” and you can type your comments into the comment box or upload a document.

• Regular, Express, or Overnight Mail: Your comments must be postmarked by the comment submission deadline (August 13, 2019). You may mail comments to U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Office for Civil Rights / Attention: Section 1557 NPRM, RIN 0945-AA11 / Hubert H. Humphrey Building, Room 509F / 200 Independence Avenue SW / Washington, DC 20201.

Masturbation, Chronic Illness, and Queerness video!

Y’all, I’ve got a story to tell. It starts with me nerding over Eva from What Is My Body Doing? at the University of Guelph Sexuality Conference in 2017. The latest chapter ends with Eva releasing this pretty cool video of a recent convo.

She is the cutest! I am so incredibly happy to know Eva and to watch her come into her queerness.

Make sure to check out her other amazing videos on YouTube. If you like her stuff, support her on Patreon! Want to cruise her social? Follow her on Twitter, Instagram, and Tumblr (where you can ask her anonymous questions!).

Coming Out to My Healthcare Providers, Part 1: The GP’s Office

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Today – actually, literally right as this gets posted – I’ll be getting an IUD placed. You’re probably wondering how I got here.

The hubs and I have known for a while that we didn’t want kids.  I’ve known this for a long time. Despite knowing this, my GP had expressed concerns over making any large decisions about my reproductive system.

Fast forward a year and a half later, and my migraines are running rampant. I know that taking estrogen every single day – as a part of taking continuous birth control – isn’t helping. I also know regularly having periods is not an option for me. My arthritic hands don’t handle them well. My pain levels go through the roof. It’s not a good thing.

Cue finally making an appointment with my GP’s PA to talk about other options.

Hubs had the day off so I brought him with because, sometimes, it helps me feel braver. It’s really easy for me to drop things and lose my resolve sometimes.

I knew that I would likely need to come out about my genderfluidity.

Yes, that’s right, me – a patient activist and sex toy tester – had not come out to them yet. I haven’t come out to any HCP about any of my identities, aside from being a sex educator. They have a lot to catch up on.

Instead of trying to hide it as I might have in the past, I was upfront. I said, in different words, that “I’m genderfluid and struggle with dysphoria. While I want to limit my migraine potential – and dysphoria – by removing extra estrogen, I also don’t want children.”

While the MA didn’t seem to necessarily enjoy hearing about me coming out, I’m grateful that the PA did. She happened to be wearing a Pride-colored Staff of Asclepius on her coat, which I didn’t notice until about halfway through the appointment.

In the end, we decided that the best options were either to get a hysterectomy or an IUD. Since we can treat the IUD as a stepping stone – because I can always have them steal my uterus later – it just made sense to try that first. I’m getting Liletta which is similar to Mirena.

As things move along, my goal will be to go through the coming out process each of my identities to each of my HCPs. They need that information to be able to treat me most effectively. I recognize the privilege I have to be able to go through the coming out process… but also recognize the fear and stigma that kept me quiet for so long. Hopefully, by documenting both getting an IUD and coming out, I can help erase some of those barriers for others.

I really hope I’m able to be brave during this appointment and let them know about recent decisions around nonmonogamy, too.