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The 2024 Gender Census Report is here!

The 11th annual international gender census – focused on collecting information about the language we use to refer to ourselves and each other – wrapped up earlier this year. Over 48,000 folks participated internationally!

You can check out the high-level summary or the full report today.

PS: Be sure to check out their shop as well to support all the amazing work they do.

The 2024 Gender Census Report is here!

Help a DV Victim Fight Back

If you’ve known me for really any length of time, it’s quite likely that you’ve heard me talk about my best friend Katy.

Through heavy depression, transitioning, and cutting contact with my abusive mother, she has always been there for me.

And she’s been going through it over the last year.

Learn how you can help and get free coaching in the process.

Help a DV Victim Fight Back

Trans Men / Masculine Folks / Nonbinary Folks Using Testosterone

Transgender men, transmasculine, and nonbinary people experience barriers to accessing health care, especially services that are traditionally gendered, such as gynecological care. In addition, very little is understood how testosterone impacts several aspects of pelvic and sexual health, including genital atrophy, genital infections (like bacterial vaginosis and yeast infection), endometriosis, and polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS).

This study is specifically examining the experiences of transgender and nonbinary people who are currently using testosterone gender-affirming hormone therapy have in accessing gynecological care. We also hope to understand some of the barriers and facilitators of accessing care and gaps in provider knowledge and awareness. We hope that the findings from this study will help enhance medical care, resources, services, and support for transgender and nonbinary people.

Trans Men / Masculine Folks / Nonbinary Folks Using Testosterone

Strong, Thriving and Resilient Men Study (STAR-M)

Note: this survey opportunity is about sexual assault experiences.

The STAR-M Study is a research project to better understand sexual assault experiences among sexual minority men in the U.S., including cis and trans men and transmasculine people, to inform affirming prevention and response efforts.

The research will focus on young adult sexual minority (e.g., gay, bisexual, queer) men, including trans men and individuals identifying as transmasculine, ages 18 to 30, from diverse racial and ethnic backgrounds. Researchers will recruit 3,600 sexual minority men from a geographically and racially diverse sample via online platforms and community-based agencies across the U.S.

Strong, Thriving and Resilient Men Study (STAR-M)

Trans/Nonbinary Experiences with Stressful Events

FORGE, in partnership with researchers at UW-Milwaukee and UT Knoxville, is conducting a study to look at trans and nonbinary people’s experiences with stressful events.

Image description: On a blue grid background, a photo of a transmasculine person with short dark hair petting a cat on their lap. Text: “Online survey: Trans/Nonbinary Experiences with Stressful Events. We are looking for individuals who: Identify as transgender or nonbinary; Are 18 or older. forge.tips/futures-survey.” FORGE logo. UWM logo. UT Knoxville logo.

Trans/Nonbinary Experiences with Stressful Events

Disability in Gaza

I published this on Dec 3, 2023, on my Substack newsletter.

Today is the International Day of Persons with Disabilities, a day set aside in 1992 by the United Nations to discuss the rights of disabled people. In 2006, they put out the Convention on the Rights of Persons with Disabilities — a document that requires countries to take care of and pay attention to how their disabled citizens are living in addition to other requirements.

Israel signed onto the Convention in 2007, ratifying it in 2012. Their status as occupiers in Palestine means this applies to Palestinians, too, and that Israel is responsible for ensuring the 50,000 (and growing) disabled Palestinians have all of their rights and are safe.

And yet, if that was the case, this specific newsletter wouldn’t exist.

So, let’s talk about disability in Gaza.

Disability in Gaza

Communicating With Your Partner 101

Communication is the foundation of any healthy and lasting relationship. That shouldn’t be a surprise. After all, no partner can read minds or guess what you need at all times. Most of the questions I get really boil down to partners not communicating due to fear, worry, stigma, and more.

The truth is that communication isn’t just stating facts and opinions. It’s the way we express emotions, empathy and support. One of the most important aspects of communication with your partner is telling them how you feel about them and expressing your appreciation, love and commitment. These words of affirmation and validation can make a huge difference in your relationship and strengthen the bond between you and your partner.

Let’s dig into some of the important things that you and your partner need to do so that you both feel loved, appreciated, and supported.

Communicating With Your Partner 101

Abortion and Reproductive Justice

In the wake of the SCOTUS decision to end Roe v Wade, I know many of us are feeling frustrated, lost, or deflated. Take your time to feel those feelings, but return to the movement toward universal rights when ready.

If you’re looking to learn more about talking about abortion, ensure that you do so inclusively…

Abortion and Reproductive Justice

Top Surgery Almost Killed Me (and I wouldn’t change a thing)

Content note: surgery, death

If you follow my personal Twitter account, you know that I had masculinizing top surgery on July 6, 2021. While I’ve shared a good amount there about my journey, I have wanted to write up a more detailed post about this for a while. Mortality isn’t something that I have handled super well historically, though, so it’s taken longer for me to get here than I’d hoped.

Top Surgery Almost Killed Me (and I wouldn’t change a thing)

Representation in Medical Education Needs to Enter the 21st Century

Authors have released books within the last few years highlighting discrimination in healthcare. Michelle Lent Hirsch documents these issues extensively in her book Invisible. Medical professionals are more likely to dismiss or downplay cisgender women’s health issues. That’s also true of those within the trans community and people of color. Providers assume physical issues are emotional or mental as opposed to investigating them. On top of these, providers will dismiss pain caused by other health issues, weight, or gender. It happens so often that there are names for these occasions, such as Trans Broken Arm Syndrome. These patients are less likely to have pain taken seriously, especially if Black and – god forbid – a Black woman.

Representation in Medical Education Needs to Enter the 21st Century

A Guide to COVID-19 Risk Aware Conversations

Please note that your mileage may vary with all this, especially if you rely on family or others for various help or anything else.

We know that COVID-19 can be transmitted via close contact with others, especially due to it being airborne. When this happens indoors, it can create a dangerous ability to spread infection.

I’m going to implore everyone to stay home this holiday season. This isn’t just me speaking as a chronic illness patient, but as someone that works in public health. The risk is generally far too great, especially if you’re crossing state lines.

A Guide to COVID-19 Risk Aware Conversations

Don’t Let Them Trick You – MindGeek, PornHub, and YouPorn are Bad News

PornHub and YouPorn want you to think they’re good people. They really do. From giving funding to college sex educators to ‘fighting’ revenge porn to even paying for plows during snowstorms in major cities, they run some new positive propaganda stuff every time you turn around.

Don’t believe it for a single second. There’s a reason they’re on my blacklist.

Don’t Let Them Trick You – MindGeek, PornHub, and YouPorn are Bad News

Chat Questions for March 10, 2016

Posted on 10 March 20167 November 2021 by Grayson Schultz

Here are this week’s chat questions!

Hope to see you on Twitter tonight.

The Best Sexual Positions for People with Limited Mobility

Posted on 2 March 20167 November 2021 by Grayson Schultz

Check out this handy graphic from http://www.xsandos.net/ on sexuality with limited mobility!

The Best Sexual Positions for People with Limited Mobility

Chat Questions for 2-25-2016

Posted on 25 February 20167 November 2021 by Grayson Schultz

This week, we’re discussing self-pleasure and masturbation.

We hope to see you at the chat tonight on Twitter from 7-9 pm Eastern (NYC) Time.

Chat Questions for 2-18-2016

Posted on 18 February 20167 November 2021 by Grayson Schultz

Here are tonight’s fabulous chat questions:

Q1: Please introduce yourself in a way you’re comfortable sharing Q2: What types of topics would you like to see in future chats? Q3: If we had a website, would you read it? Q4: Would you like to see reviews of items - books, toys, aids? Q5: What was the most kickass thing about your week?

Hope to see you tonight on Twitter!

Welcome to Chronic Sex!

Posted on 17 February 20167 November 2021 by Grayson Schultz

I recently started blogging about sex and relationships over at CreakyJoints. You can follow the links below to get to the posts over there.

You should also check out Cara’s podcast, In Sickness + In Health. The episode where we sat down to talk #chronicsex is here. Jessica Gimeno and I also recently discussed 5 Tips for Dating with Chronic Illness.

Posts on here about sex and relationships can be found here:

Here are also some products and stores that I enjoy or can recommend:

Almost Naked Organic Personal Lubricant (water-based) from Good Clean Love
Jaz Motion from the Liberator bedroom adventure gear brand (it’s also great for propping up sore knees!)
The Tool Shed, based in Milwaukee, Wisconsin, is a feminist sex positive store
Wonderland White Rabbit vibrator

You can find more information on the resources page.

Below you can keep in touch with the #chronicsex hashtag, which you can use to ask me questions, discuss issues, and more!

Chronic Sex is also about Self-Love and Self-Care. Here are some basics to get you started:

I would recommend these two pages first, as they’re great for beginners:

Once you have the basics down, move on to these: