Chronic Sex

Motivations

Abuser

• Why People Abuse
• Power and Control

Can Abusers Change?

• Is Change Possible in an Abuser?
• Help for Abusive Partners
• Intervention Programs for Abusive Behavior
• How to Change Your Relationship When You Don't Have Support
• Can I Save Them?

Abused

• Why People Stay: It's not as easy as simply walking away
• “Why Didn’t You Say Anything?”
• "Why Do I Love My Abuser?"

Types of Abuse

• Types of Abuse
• Understand Relationship Abuse
• What Is Emotional Abuse?
• What is Spiritual Abuse?

Sexual Abuse

• A Closer Look at Sexual Coercion
• Male Survivors
• Revenge Porn
• Safety Planning Around Sexual Abuse
• Stealthing
• Is Your Sexual Past Being Used Against You?
• Not Your ‘Geisha Doll:’ We Need to Talk About & Not Around Racist Sexual Violence
• Healing From Sexual Abuse Must Be Both Individual and Communal

Consent

• Consent
• When Yes Doesn’t Mean Yes: David Bowie, Consent and Accountability

Warning Signs

• Warning Signs of Abuse
• A Deeper Look Into Gaslighting
• Signs of Love Bombing
• When Your Partner Threatens Suicide
• Children as an Abusive Mechanism
• The Myths of Jealousy
• Identity Theft in Abusive Relationships
• Substance Abuse and Domestic Violence
• Drugs, Alcohol and Abuse

Abuse Cycle

• Escalation
• How an Abusive Partner’s “Good” Behavior is Part of the Act
• How Can I Talk to My Abuser?
• Identifying & Overcoming Trauma Bonds
• Grace vs. Abuse: 7 Questions to Define the Line

Safety

• Documenting Abuse
• Plan for Safety
• Safety Planning: A Guide for Transgender and Gender Non-Conforming Individuals who are experiencing intimate partner violence (pdf)
• Safety Planning Around Guns and Firearms as well as Other Weapons
• Safety Planning for Friends and Family
• Safety Planning for the Holidays
• Safety While Traveling: Traveling With an Abusive Partner

Children

• Safety Planning During Pregnancy
  • Staying Physically, Emotionally and Financially Safe During Pregnancy
  • Pregnancy and Abuse: Planning a Safe Child Birth
  • Pregnancy and Abuse: Safety During Postpartum
• Safety Planning With Children
  • Emotional Safety Planning With Children
• Safety While Traveling: Traveling With Children
• Supporting Your Children

Pets

• Pet Safety

Accessibility Needs

• Deaf, DeafBlind & Hard of Hearing Services
• When Abuse Tarnishes The Golden Years

Getting Support

• Tips for Safely Reaching Out for Support
• Undocumented and Experiencing Intimate Partner Violence: What Are My Rights When Reaching Out for Support?
• “You Are Not Alone:” Uncovering the Dark Secret of Black Women and Sexual Abuse

Reporting

• Reporting to Police: Options & Tips for Being Prepared

Leaving

• Domestic Violence Shelter Resources
• Seeking Shelter: What to Expect, How to Share Your Story, and What to Do If You Are Denied Assistance

Moving On

• After You Leave
• Should I Forgive My Abuser?
• Support Animals: Helping to Heal
• When Home Is No Longer Home: 6 Truths Toward Radical Self Love After Intimate Partner Violence

Adults Who Survived Child Abuse

• How I Survived a Spanking Household
• You Are Not Responsible For Your Parents’ Behavior

• Disability and Transgender Survivors Webinar (video)
• First Do No Harm: 8 Tips for Addressing Violence Against Transgender and Gender Non-Binary People (pdf)
• Serving Trans Survivors: A 101 for Advocates (video)
• Trans Survivors of Domestic and Sexual Violence: Know Your Rights (pdf)

• 5 Ways to Help Your Friend If They Have Been Triggered
• A Guide for Facilitators of Transgender Community Groups: Supporting Sexual Violence Survivors (pdf)
• Creating a Trans-Welcoming Environment: A tips sheet for sexual assault service providers (pdf)
• Forensic Exams with Transgender Sexual Assault Survivors (video)
• Getting Help For A Friend In Need
• Helpers: So You Want to Stage an Intervention…
• Here are 9 Ways To Be A Good Ally To Sexual Assault Survivors
• How to Help a Friend in an Abusive Relationship
• How To Tell Your Friend Their Partner Is Emotionally Shady
• Is Your Loved One in an Abusive Relationship?
• Not Alone: How to Help Transgender Survivors in Detention (video)
• Respected and Whole: Preventing Bias in Domestic Violence/Sexual Assault Programs (pdf)
• Responding to Transgender Victims of Sexual Assault toolkit
• Someone I Know is Being Abused. Should I Call the Police?
• Supporting Someone Who Keeps Returning to an Abusive Relationship
• Tips for Intervening If You Witness Domestic Violence
• When A Survivor Asks You For Help
• When Your Family Member is Abusing Their Partner

General

• Latest Stats (as of early 2017) on Violence and Abuse
• National Data on Intimate Partner Violence, Sexual Violence, and Stalking (PDF)
• National Statistics on Domestic Violence
• Private Violence: up to 75% of abused women who are murdered are killed after they leave their partners
• State-by-state Statistics on Domestic Violence

Disability

• Abuse and Exploitation of People with Developmental Disabilities
• Abuse in Deaf Communities
• Abuse in Disability Communities
• Abuse of Children with Intellectual Disability
• Abuse of Women with Disabilities
• Adults With Disabilities More Likely To Be Abused Than Non-Disabled Adults: Study
• Advocate Guide to Safety Planning for Persons with Disabilities
• Safety Planning for Domestic Violence Victims with Disabilities
• Sexual Abuse and Disability
• Sexual Abuse of People with Disabilities
• Statistics on Abuse and Neglect of Children With Disabilities
• Survey Finds Disability Abuse Widespread
• The abuse of disabled people is a hidden crime we must face up to
• Violence against adults and children with disabilities

Race & Ethnicity

• Abuse in Native American & Alaska Native Communities
• Abuse in the Black Community
• Abuse in the Latinx Community

LGBTQ+

• #IAmOneOfThem: Why We Need To Represent Trans People In Sexual Assault Advocacy
• A Same-Sex Domestic Violence Epidemic Is Silent
• Abuse in LGBTQ+ Communities
• Injustice at Every Turn A Report of the National Transgender Discrimination Survey (PDF)
• LGBTQ Relationship Violence
• Obstacles for LGBTQ Youth to Get Help
• Same Violence, Different Challenges: Relationships and Dating Abuse in the LGBTQ Community
• Sexual Assault and the LGBTQ Community

Immigrants

• Abuse in Immigrant Communities

Injustice

• How The Legal System Is Complicit In The Murder Of Domestic Violence Victims​

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• Family and Friends’ Guide to Domestic Violence by Elaine Weissman
• He’s Just No Good for You: A Guide to Getting Out of a Destructive Relationship by Beth Wilson with Mo Therese Hannah
• The Batterer as Parent: Addressing the Impact of Domestic Violence on Family Dynamics by Lundy Bancroft and Jay G. Silverman
• When Love Goes Wrong: What to Do When You Can’t Do Anything Right by Ann Jones and Susan Schechter
• Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft

• 16 Ideas for addressing violence against women in the context of the HIV epidemic: A programming tool (PDF) - World Health Organization (2013)
• Addressing violence against women and girls in sexual and reproductive health services: A review of knowledge assets (PDF) - United Nations Population Fund (2010)
• Coerced First Sex among Adolescent Girls in Sub-Saharan Africa: Prevalence and Context - Moore AM, Awusabo-Asare K, Madise N, John-Langba J, Kumi-Kyereme A (2007)
• Comprehensive Responses to Gender-Based Violence in Low-Resource Settings: Lessons learned from Implementation (PDF) - Population Council, Sida, Norwegian Ministry of Foreign Affairs (2010)
• Does Childhood Disability Increase Risk for Child Abuse and Neglect? - RT Leeb, RH Bitsko, MT Merrick, and BS Armour (2012)
• Estimating the effect of intimate partner violence on women's use of contraception: a systematic review and meta-analysis - Maxwell L, Devries K, Zionts D, Alhusen JL, Campbell J (2015)
• Global and regional estimates of violence against women: prevalence and health effects of intimate partner violence and non-partner sexual violence (PDF) - World Health Organization, London School of Hygiene & Tropical Medicine, and South African Medical Research Council (2013)
• Intimate partner violence and HIV: clearing up confusion - Kishor, S. (2015)
• Intimate partner violence and HIV infection among women: systematic review and meta-analysis - Li Y, Marshall CM, Rees HC, Nunez A, Ezeanolue E, Ehiri JE (2014)
• Intimate partner violence, relationship power inequity, and incidence of HIV infection in young women in South Africa: a cohort study - Jewkes RK, Dunkle K, Nduna M, Shai N (2010)
• Profiling Domestic Violence: A Multi-Country Study (PDF) - Measure DHS+ (2004)
• Reproductive coercion: connecting the dots between partner violence and unintended pregnancy (PDF) - Miller E, Jordan B, Levenson R, Silverman JG (2010)
• The connections between disability and child abuse: A review of the research evidence - Liz Kelly (1992)
• The impact of stepping stones on incidence of HIV and HSV-2 and sexual behavior in rural South Africa: cluster randomized controlled trial - Jewkes R, Nduna M, Levin J, Jama N, Dunkle K, Puren A, Duvvury N (2008)

• Abused Dear Women's Advocacy Services
• Anti-Violence Project (LGBTQIA+ friendly)
• CDC Violence Prevention
• Center for Relationship Abuse Awareness
• Child Welfare Information Gateway
• End Abuse Against People with Disabilities
  • Ableism and Violence: A Plain Language Guide
• FORGE (Trans & GNC focused)
• Gender Violence Institute
• GLBTQDVP
• Global Rights for Women
• Hack Blossom
• National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV)
• National Domestic Violence Hotline
• National Domestic Violence Freephone Helpline (UK)
• National Network to End Domestic Violence
• Pandora's Project
• The Arc’s National Center on Criminal Justice and Disability
• The Network/La Red (LGBTQIA+ focused)
• Stalking Resource Center